The Pressure Of Marriage.

[Dark_Phoenix_Zaetyk]

What are the reasons most later millennials and Gen Z are not getting married at all?,i'm 27 but the word marriage is a distance nightmare to me.I don't even visit home because i get attacked with the marriage scheme everywhere.....if my mom wants grandkids that's my two siblings work now, it's sad but a pretty normal thing for me.

 

[Assurbanipal_II]

Marriage is a property contract that has served its usefulness ... At least, for the time being ...

 

[NineHeadHeavenDevouringSerpent]

Cause we are constantly aware through modern technology about the headaches and shenanigans involved in having kids.


News has never been so prominent as it is now, so yeah too much gloom and doom going around doesn't help in boom boom wya wya??

 

[RedMuffin]

the word marriage is a distance nightmare to me

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[ArlindoFrancisco]

Well, i can't relate... i already have a wife and a kid.
Why is Gen Z or millennials not getting married at all? selfishness, some just want to think about themselves and what they want. If you think marriage is a nightmare, I think that is what you should say to your mom; she will realise that is a bad idea for you to get married even if you fall in love. If that mindset is still there, it's over.

Is about selfishness because marriage is for forming a family and with that, yourself kind of fades into the background and the family goes on top; kids become the central part and you live for them, not yourself. Marriage is not for you to be happy but is not for suffering; it is to form a family; anything other than that is a 99% chance of divorce, so if you are not prepared to stop thinking about yourself, don't marry.

Not going to write an essay about it, but that is my opinion.

 

[Daitengu]

There's no reason to do so when, as a man, I just get my stuff taken by the woman in a divorce, and the courts usually side with the woman.

Heck, just spam your family social feed with vids like:

They'll eventually get he idea that the game has changed and men are the losers.

 

[ArchlordZero]

Nobody would have me :(

 

[HungrySheep]

I am married, but I cannot have children with my partner as we are both women. I feel like this has contributed significantly to our decision to marry, and I don't think we would have if we both had the ability to make children and one of us wanted children. However, I assume this question is about "traditional" marriages (i.e. man and woman). The answer to that is pretty simple: look at the economy.

Everything's inflating to shit. In 2 years, a tub of Isogold has gone from $60 to over $100!!! What the fuck kind of inflation is that??? Look at the price of apples. $14 dollars for 8. That's nearly $2 for 8 apples. Eight fucking apples!!! And that's cheap!

Don't even get me started on the housing market. That's a whole 'nother can of worms. Why aren't people getting married and having kids? Because it's expensive as fuck. That's why.

 

[Jerynboe]

Idk man. I’m also a married 30 year old with a child. I’m pretty dang happy despite the additional stress. I think our culture has just gone out of its way to emphasize the drawbacks of marriage/having kids for some reason, which when combined with the terrible economy leads to lots of people deciding that marriage isn’t for them or that they need to put it off.

I honestly don’t know what is so scary about marriage tbh. I’d be in a vastly worse state mentally without my partner and vice versa, and once we mutually came to the conclusion that we felt that way I pushed hard for us to get married. Formalizing it was simultaneously not a big change and a huge deal that led to us thinking more concretely about our mutual future. I also pushed for us to actually buy a house once we saved enough to afford a down payment.

That said, I do wish we’d skipped the wedding. That shit was so expensive that we probably could have put together the down payment on a house years earlier without it. (On an assistant mailman and a waitress’s salary in northern VA, though we bought just before Covid and house prices have kept ballooning so that might have gotten worse in the last few years)

 

[Dark_Phoenix_Zaetyk]

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Lol are you broken now.

Cause we are constantly aware through modern technology about the headaches and shenanigans involved in having kids.


News has never been so prominent as it is now, so yeah too much gloom and doom going around doesn't help in boom boom wya wya??

Yeah i get constant headaches seeing my peers with kids....they seem gloom ...well some anyway.

 

[HungrySheep]

Idk man. I’m also a married 30 year old with a child. I’m pretty dang happy despite the additional stress. I think our culture has just gone out of its way to emphasize the drawbacks of marriage/having kids for some reason, which when combined with the terrible economy leads to lots of people deciding that marriage isn’t for them or that they need to put it off.

I honestly don’t know what is so scary about marriage tbh. I’d be in a vastly worse state mentally without my partner and vice versa, and once we mutually came to the conclusion that we felt that way I pushed hard for us to get married.

That said, I do wish we’d skipped the wedding. That shit was so expensive that we probably could have put together the down payment on a house years earlier without it. (On an assistant mailman and a waitress’s salary in northern VA, though we bought just before Covid and house prices have kept ballooning so that might have gotten worse in the last few years)

Yeah, the wedding industry is way overpriced. My partner and I went super low cost 'cause we wanted to prioritize a lot of other things, but if yours was expensive enough to cover a down payment that's actually pretty impressive. I hope everyone there at least enjoyed themselves, and congratulations for your marriage (even though I'm like, years late)!

 

[Dark_Phoenix_Zaetyk]

Marriage is a property contract that has served its usefulness ... At least, for the time being ...

That's nice way of saying it.

Nobody would have me :(

Sorry.

I am married, but I cannot have children with my partner as we are both women. I feel like this has contributed significantly to our decision to marry, and I don't think we would have if we both had the ability to make children and one of us wanted children. However, I assume this question is about "traditional" marriages (i.e. man and woman). The answer to that is pretty simple: look at the economy.

Everything's inflating to shit. In 2 years, a tub of Isogold has gone from $60 to over $100!!! What the fuck kind of inflation is that??? Look at the price of apples. $14 dollars for 8. That's nearly $2 for 8 apples. Eight fucking apples!!! And that's cheap!

Don't even get me started on the housing market. That's a whole 'nother can of worms. Why aren't people getting married and having kids? Because it's expensive as fuck. That's why.

Yeah everything is expensive when it comes to marriage starting with the wedding and those planning things....then the damn houses etc...especially now with this economy.

 

[Jerynboe]

Yeah, the wedding industry is way overpriced. My partner and I went super low cost 'cause we wanted to prioritize a lot of other things, but if yours was expensive enough to cover a down payment that's actually pretty impressive. I hope everyone there at least enjoyed themselves, and congratulations for your marriage (even though I'm like, years late)!

Not the whole down payment, no, but 20% of what we eventually spent on a down payment yes.

The awful thing? We went with the cheapest caterer we could find, got married in a public park because we thought it would be cheaper (and it WAS cheaper than a lot of places), she wore an heirloom dress instead of buying new, several other things to cut costs that slip my mind at this time, and my parents were kind enough to split the bill with us. It still set our saving back by a year or two.

 

[Assurbanipal_II]

That's nice way of saying it.

Why nice? Marriage has always been a legal union with the sole purpose of joining together family fortunes in order to leave them to your descendants of blood and designated heirs one day. That is why the difference between bastard and non bastard was so relevant in the old days as bastards were not entitled to inherit as they were born outside the sanctioned union and thus were not legitimate heirs.

What else would you think it was about? Love?

 

[ThisAdamGuy]

My standard response whenever somebody asks me if I'm dating anyone or going to get married has become, "Hey! I know I'm not the nicest guy in the world, but I'm not that mean!" That usually gets them to change the subject pretty quick.

 

[Dark_Phoenix_Zaetyk]

There's no reason to do so when, as a man, I just get my stuff taken by the woman in a divorce, and the courts usually side with the woman.

Heck, just spam your family social feed with vids like:

They'll eventually get he idea that the game has changed and men are the losers.

Saw other day an american dude won 200m in lottery and his divorce wife of 5 months wants a share....or that's what i saw on some sources.

My standard response whenever somebody asks me if I'm dating anyone or going to get married has become, "Hey! I know I'm not the nicest guy in the world, but I'm not that mean!" That usually gets them to change the subject pretty quick.

?Yeah i can see after saying this no one will bring marriage to you again.

 

[HungrySheep]

Saw other day an american dude won 200m in lottery and his divorce wife of 5 months wants a share....or that's what i saw on some sources.

That is shameless LMAO

 

[RepresentingWrath]

Why aren't people getting married and having kids? Because it's expensive as fuck. That's why.

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[RepresentingDesire]

I honestly don't understand the emotional reasons of marriage.

 

[Dark_Phoenix_Zaetyk]

That is shameless LMAO

Sometimes usa laws gives me a headache,they have laws about everything....some are good,some are weird while others are straight not good for others.

I honestly don't understand the emotional reasons of marriage.

Lol i expected this from you.... seriously i am not surprised by your answer.