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Usually, the focus is on the husband but rarely on the wife.

sounds like the dudes need to git gud ᖍ(^•ﻌ•^)ᖌ

what does outgunned mean in this context?

@Cipiteca396 I assume it means men think psychologist is prejudiced, and takes the side of a wife.

What Sailus said, though the truth is that a psychologist will try to say as little as possible only asking probing questions here and there about how certain things make either one feel. Given that men externalize their feelings more it means that in general they can't answer the questions as clearly. Hence they can come away from the experience feeling outgunned.

A lot of it has to do with the fact that therapy and counseling are more emotionally(right brain) centered while most men think more logically(left brain) centered. That is not to say that women aren't logical or that men aren't emotional, but that it has to make sense emotionally or logically before they can accept it.

Since This is often why men prefer male therapists and women prefer female therapists(which make up the majority of therapists and counselors). Men often do not consider or understand the emotional implications of what they do,

like their female partner does, it can be very difficult to take part in counseling that only seems to side with the partner rather than find a middle ground between the left and right brain.

It also has to do with the nature of therapy, which asks questions in a roundabout manner to reach an end goal for the person, as Melchi said. Most men just want to be given a straightforward answer that they can apply rather than having to internalize it as many men(myself included) struggle with internalizing their problems.

At that point, it's a lot easier for men to gain a lot more than any therapy session by hanging out with their friends and having a heart-to-heart.

@Paul_Tromba that’s a very well-worded answer! I feel obligated to say that left-brained vs. right-brained has no scientific background, much like “visual learners.” A lot of it is more societal than biological.

I will say that I’ve been very well prepared to argue and maintain my status “in the right” while still seeming sympathetic, mainly because I was also taught that, as a woman, it’s imperative I do this to maintain my dignity in workplaces etc and not come off as “emotional” or “hormonal.” So I can definitely see myself destroying an unprepared man in therapy.

I think society needs to start raising men and women with equal emotional and intellectual acceptance, otherwise these fights will never end.

We should decide who is wrong and who is right the oldschool way.

I agree. Though even if it is a societal issue rather than a biological issue, it is still an issue that applies to the current day and age of society. I hope that it changes to be more equal in the future as men are often afraid to be emotional and even unhealthily cut it off and women are treated as though they are solely emotional. Neither are healthy.

Yes, everyone needs to understand that many problems are caused by oneself and that stubbornness is not a solution. People should hold themselves accountable.